For me, I had that once, and it was a miserable experience. I was renting a house. Difficult to get her to pay her share of the bills. Started bringing guys home to pump in the middle of the night with me trying to sleep in the next bedroom. Asking her to stop this just brought arguments. Other problems. Finally, shaking off my Beta, I told her to move out.
She moved to a smaller house across the street. When she moved out of that one about a year later, I decided to move over there for the cheaper rent. Tuned out she hadn’t paid her bills there either, and I had to pay some of the arrears to get my utilities and such. I decided, never again have any kind of roommate, if I could help it.
I lived with 3 girls in their twenties for a few months. just moved out.
They love to use air fresheners everywhere
they like those carts on wheels in the bathrooms to hold their things for some reason
They clean kitchen supplies on the surface, but when you look closely its all dirty, forks, coffee makers…
they like to go inside each others rooms and talk
they like to blame you for things you did not do
they like to passively aggressively mask all their concerns in “nice” text messages.
they make problems out of the smallest things
they don’t know how to fix anything
they won’t ever offer you help in anything, like if you are moving.
they like to make a big deal out of an issue, have a whole group text conversation about it, but won’t actually follow through on fixing it.
While I was at MIT I stayed in an apartment in Marblehead. My roommate was a female. She was 20 years old and a student at Radcliff. Her father owned the apartment. She would drop me off in front of the MIT dome every morning on her way to the quadrangle.
We got along very well. In the beginning she laid down her ground rules on what I needed to clean and take care of and what we were going to do for meals. Her dad had a maid who came three times a week. Which helped a lot with the cleaning and the wash.
All in all it was a good deal. I thoroughly enjoyed my time there. I only had three minor disagreements with her while I was at MIT.
One was I couldn’t bring any girls to the apartment when she wasn’t there. Another was me staying too late in the Barker library and she hated to wait to take me home in the evening. I needed to be there on time.
The worse one was I put too much Bromine in the hot tub and she got a rash. However we became good friends, helped each other study especially for tests. She was almost like a sister/girlfriend. I gave her my RAT ring when I left. I will never forget our time together. Bottom line IHTFP.
I had a female roommate once in my life and it was AWESOME.
I was 24 and she was 39 and we got along very well. What made it awesome was that women tend to be naturally cleaner than guys. I’ve had male roommates before and guys tend to leave their shit everywhere and leave their dishes in the sink etc. But not my female roommate.
It was so refreshing to live with someone who cleans up after themselves and isn’t blasting their music when you are trying to study… Basically, it’s nice to have a considerate roommate.
Not to say that guys can’t be considerate roommates or that every female is considerate…
was in that situation once. It was a bit opposite of the situations that I have been reading in the answers here. I had a woman who was renting rooms in her house to young men. She lived near a big University, and had one renter when I came.
Later a third young man rented another room. The only trouble we had was with the third man. It was his intimidation tactics and the way that he took advantage of the lady that rented to us that caused trouble.
In reference to him and in thinking about the other responses: Check refrences… whatever you need to do to verify that whether male or female; the person that will be living with you (or you will be living with) is not going to be trouble.
Trouble can happen wether it is a man or woman with whom you are dealing.
I would like to suggest these house rules and provisions to make things work better. (Many of these the lady with whom I lived came up with and I think very helpful.
- Everyone must be respectful of each other. This means do not mess with their stuff, enter their room, nor touch them personally unless specifically invited to do so. This also means guard your words so that they are kind and considerate of all the others.
- Everyone has their assigned space for their stuff. In the pantry, in the bathroom, in the parking lot, in the porch. Your stuff must be in your space when not actually in use or it can be removed by the house owner.
- Be mindful of the schedules of others and do not disturb them (night shift, study time…)
- Keep your space clean and neat.
- This is a strictly nonsexual housing arrangement. Do not even consider any other possibility.
- Be helpful with yard chores.
- Work around each other for use and scheduling of common spaces like bathroom and kitchen.
- You are responsible for your own dishes and laundry. (Even if someone decides to be helpful and do them for you, don’t expect them to).
- No illegal activities or substances
- If you hace an agrevance bring it to the house owner in a respectful and helpful manner.
I think that is all. For the most part this eliminated the trouble that many have mentioned in their responses.
